Emotional Intelligence
 Our IQ may help us understand and navigate the world on one level, but we also need EQ, emotional smarts,to understand ourselves, deal with challenges, and build strong relationships.
 
Emotions are powerful. They can override thoughts and profoundly influence behavior. Developing the skills of emotional intelligence (EQ) allows us to harness the power of our emotions: self-esteem, self-awareness, compassion, empathy, and adaptability—qualities that predict success in life.
 
What is emotional intelligence?
 
Emotional intelligence is essentially the ability to recognize, manage, and use your emotions in positive and constructive ways. It’s also about recognizing the emotional states of others and engaging them in ways that feel good to all and create mutual safety, trust, and confidence.

Emotional intelligence (EQ) vs. Intellectual intelligence (IQ)
 
Research shows that intellectual intelligence (IQ) has less to do with success in life than emotional intelligence (EQ). We all know people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially inept and unsuccessful. What they are missing is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is what helps you communicate clearly, lead others, and build powerful relationships at work and in your personal life. Emotional intelligence also helps you motivate yourself, solve problems, and achieve your goals.

Emotional intelligence consists of four fundamental capabilities:
•Self-awareness – the ability to be conscious of your emotions and recognize their impact while using gut feelings to guide your decisions.
•Self-management – the ability to control your emotions and behavior and adapt to changing circumstances.
•Social awareness – the ability to sense, understand, and react to the emotions of others and feel comfortable socially.
•Relationship management – the ability to inspire, influence, and connect to others while managing conflict.   

Emotional intelligence is the key to success and resilience
 
In studying people with strokes, brain tumors, and other types of brain damage, scientists have made some fascinating discoveries about intelligence. When the parts of our brains that enable us to feel emotions are damaged, our intellects remain intact. We can still talk, analyze, perform excellently on IQ tests, and even predict how we should act in social situations. But under these tragic circumstances, we are unable to make decisions in the real world—to interact successfully and appropriately with other people, to plan for the immediate or long-term future, to creatively solve problems, and ultimately, to succeed.
 
The difference between success and failure in life is less a product of what happens to you than how you react to unexpected, unpleasant, and threatening experiences. Those who can go with the flow survive and prosper.

Emotional intelligence isn’t a safety net that protects you from life’s tragedies, frustrations, or disappointments. Emotionally-intelligent individuals go through bad times and experience sadness, anger, and fear—just like everyone else. But they respond differently than less healthy people to these experiences. Emotional intelligence gives you the ability to cope and bounce back from stress, adversity, trauma, and loss. In other words, emotional intelligence makes you resilient.
 
Resilience gives you the ability to:
 •Stay focused in a frightening or challenging situation
•Experience moments of joy in the face of sadness and loss
•Ask for and get support when needed 
•Quickly rebound from frustration and disappointment
•Remain hopeful during challenging and difficult times 

Emotional intelligence is the hidden factor in relationships and communication
 
For decades, we have viewed relationship obstacles through a flawed lens—one that fails to capture the real sources of connection and disconnection between people. When we look at communication from a moment-to-moment perspective, as new brain imaging technologies now enable us to do, we can see that what really keeps people connected lies beneath the surface.

Our emotions connect us to others

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